Getting to know people can be challenging. Its not knowing what to ask because you don’t know enough about them to ask insightful personal questions. And it seems the only way to get to know them is by asking those same questions. But read on and I’ll tell you about a fun story based game you can play to smooth out the process.
I got this game from the book “Eragon” by Christopher Paolini. Its a fantasy book about a boy discovering he’s a dragon rider and saving his homeland from evil. The games not even remotely about the book, but I like to give credit where its due.
Start With an Incomplete Story Fragment
The game starts off by one person (usually the games initiator) telling a fragment of a story. In the book its about a wolf being hunted but it could be about anything. For example “One day a man noticed his own shadow for the first time…”. Or if you want to say find out about career aspirations it could be “One day a young girl thought about her future…”. The idea is to start with an open ended statement that leaves lots of room for interpretation. And that guides the listeners to their own fragment.
This can be played with 2 or more people. The next person will then say their fragment to continue the story. So using the shadow example “and he noticed it moved of its own accord…”. The story is continued. And so on with the next person perhaps saying “It seemed to be indicating he should go somewhere…”.”The man followed the shadows direction and discovered it had led him to a secret treasure.” The parable being follow your heart and you’ll always find something worthwhile.
And Then Each Person Continues the Story
The fragments can be long or short. In this case they were short just to explain the concept better. If you’ve got a group of creative or talented storytellers this game can become quite complex and enjoyable. Or it can be simple and relaxing, its up to the people telling the story. Now you can draw your own conclusions about what the storyteller MEANS from what they say. For instance you might infer that I’m confident in my own judgement from the shadow story or that I’m still chasing childish fantasies.
The games real value is in starting more involved conversations. Once two people get used to talking at length with each. Questions about personal lives, hobbies, dreams come naturally. Or you can play with a bunch of people at parties and just make up ridiculous stories about insane things happening for no reason. It is what you make of it. But I highly recommend giving it a try with someone you wan to get to know or with a few friends.
If you think this is a great game share this article with your friends or family, and comment with some of the crazy stories you and your friends managed to come up with.